Call #5: Adoption Awareness Month
“I think you can only take on what you can take on and when you’re
ready, then you take the next step,” ~ Marnie Tetz, Adoptee
“I’m now strong enough to support other people,
and that moves you into another level of healing
that’s really freeing,” ~ Bernadette Rymer, Reunited birth mom
Featuring: Marnie Tetz, President of the Forget Me Not Family Society (FMNFS) & Bernadette Rymer, Director & Newsletter Editor FMNFS
Marnie Tetz, Adoptee & President
of the Forget Me Not Family Society
Vancouver BC In 2000
Bernadette Rymer, Reunited birth mom
and director/newsletter editor
for the Forget Me Not Society.”
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Hi Jennifer:
I understand what you are saying as an adoptee; how your needs are so primal. Is it normal for me to feel that way? I ache to see her just walk across a room, to touch her hand, to just look at her, to experience the ordinary! From talking to her, she doesn’t have these needs, I know that is lack of awareness, but physically I feel such angst for a physical connection. How do I give her this without her even being aware of those needs?
Thank you, D (birth mom)
Hi! Jennifer,
This has been such an excellent time listening to you, Bernadette and Marnie sharing. Please answer me this one:How can a mother initiate this holding technique with a 6 ft. 2 in. son and how in blazes can this be achieved?
Alice (reunited mother)
This was responded to in the call…thank you so much for asking!
I am a birth mom who was found by my 43 year old son a year and a half ago. As Bernadette well knows, it was all so, so wonderful for the first year and then clearly sometime this summer the “honeymoon” part of this reunion came to an end, at least on my son’s part. Even though things are nice I seem to be stuck and can’t move on from the pain and anxiousness. I feel that he may have satisfied his curiosity somewhat with regards to his birth mom. He seems to think his life is and always has been perfect and that he has absolutely no issues about being adopted. Q: Is it possible for an adoptee to be so well adjusted that he doesn’t have any pain or confusion or neediness re his adoption?
Also Jennifer ~ thank you for writing your wonderful books. I loved Blackbird and Found and have ordered the other two books.
P.B.
Why are so many male adoptees so difficult to have a relationship with, many not wanting one at all. Anyone have a good ideas as to how I can send emails/cards
with no idea where he is? I would love to tell him one (or many) more times that I love him and I would love to know how he is. He did tell my husband at one
time that if our relationship ever ended it would hurt me alot more than it would him. Is this his punishment for me?
Luckily for me, I have attended several adoption retreats, seminars, support groups and read most everything I know about. I’m not sure he has.
Thank you all for the time you spend regarding adoption healing. You are appreciated more than you know. M.A.
This is a good question, I think it has to do with the whole “repressed emotion thing.” Men are allowed so few emotions and it’s very hard to admit the deep and complex feelings that arise. It’s easier…or so many men think…to pretend it’s not important.